If you do not get the job you are bound to feel disappointed, particularly if you have worked really hard in preparation. Remember, there can only be one appointment and it is possible you did everything right on the day and it sadly came down to something tiny. Interview panels can deliberate for hours, but the answer you get is still either ‘yes’ or ‘no’ and, if it’s the latter, it hurts. However, it is important to both learn from the experience through feedback and reflection and pick yourself up and start again, positively and proactively. This chapter looks at: • Getting effective feedback • Reflecting on that feedback • Common feedback • Picking yourself up and starting again You should always be offered feedback if you are unsuccessful at interview and it is really important that you accept this, despite how hurt you may feel in the aftermath. Indeed, if you are not offered feedback, always ask for it because it is an essential component of either improving next time or perhaps even not changing your approach at all. If someone else had a skill you just didn’t have, you can’t easily change that in short order and so if everything else was spot on, don’t break the formula! The best time to have feedback is some days after the event but close enough that you can remember what happened. Having feedback immediately after being told you were unsuccessful is likely to be less productive, as you are carrying the pain of rejection and normal defence mechanisms make it more likely that you will reject the feedback. Remember, feedback on a failure to be appointed is much like receiving bad news in medicine and, as we were taught in medical school, when given bad news most of us will not hear beyond those first few words, in our case ‘Sorry you have been unsuccessful’. By letting the dust settle and then approaching it with a mindset that says ‘This will help me learn, improve and be successful next time’, we can utilize the feedback to hone our approach to the next level.